I'm a domestic failure.
I can't cook, I'm not crafty, and for the life of me even my best attempts at cleaning fall painfully short. Nothing about it comes naturally for me. Even marriage and children surprised me. I've always felt a little bit behind the eight ball.
I've always felt like I wasn't quite good enough.
And let's face it, learning you gifts, values, and priorities does you no good at all if the things that matter to you and your skill seem to be in direct contradiction. I mean, sure, the ability to read an entire book series in one week without speaking to another soul seems admirable. But useful? Not so much.
So how do you keep going when nothing you ever do feels good enough?
You find a way to maximize your momentum.
We are going to talk about two specific ways that to make momentum work for you:
1. Stretch Your Strengths
When I tell people I homeschool my bajillion small children they look at me like perhaps I just managed to shake off the straight jacket. But truthfully? It's a strength.
Remember that useless skill I have of getting lost in a book?
Turns out it's really just a passion for learning from living books. Of all the things that feel surprisingly natural, teaching my kids might be the most surprising.
But the best part? It serves most of my values.
I spent a few of those early years trying to be Martha Stewart. The things I had to do were owning me instead of me owning what I had to do.
Another way of saying this? Make it personal.
Don't ever take it for granted that the established way is the only way, because really, the established way is is just someone else's personal success. It's their good enough. Don't fall into the lie that tell you that if someone cares about something their way of completing it is the only way.
When you take the gifts God has given you and pair them with the values He has given you, the combination creates momentum. It's the tinderbox you need to light fire to move the engine in the right direction.
2. Rise to the Challenge
If the first thing that makes momentum is doing what your good at, the second has to be overcoming what your bad at.
Full disclosure: I still hate cooking. I'm still bad at.
(Just didn't wan't anyone to get the wrong idea.)
Sometimes the thing that leaves us feeling like we have fallen short is that we just haven't tried to learn. It happens occasionally that we are trying so hard to just keep our head above water that we never take the time to learn to swim.
But sometimes a little enlightenment lights the way to something better.
Listen to me: Somebody is about to go sign up for a Master's degree is something they hate. Don't do that.
Here is an example of a reasonable challenge: Pick one place where you never feel quite good enough. Get on the internet and look up one article regarding that thing.
ONE! I said ONE! (Don't fall down the rabbit hole, you'll regret it.)
Tomorrow, try the thing. If it doesn't work, drop it. Wash, Rinse, Repeat.
I bet you'll find instruction encouraging.
One step in the right direction, is after all, one step in the right direction. And that my friends? Is momentum.