Listen, I've tried to avoid the term "perfectionist" around here.
Why? Because I don't read posts about perfectionism. I'm not. So I don't.
But at the heart of it all we each have a place where we don't know when we have reached "Good Enough."
We all have a place where we feel less than, and forever unfulfilled.
As long as we have our eyes heavenward those places serve to stir our desire for the Kingdom and spur us onward with joy and longing. But too often and too easily those places serve to turn our eyes inward to the vacuum of self-fulfillment.
Which is why I'm suggesting we learn to embrace intentional imperfection. I think we would all do well to purposely leave a little bit of space for grace.
How, you might ask?
By writing our To-Do List and then writing our To-Don't List.
Another (more common) (read:boring) way of saying this: Boundaries.
Good Boundaries lead us straight to Good Enough.
1. Make A Fail List
I want you to make the most secret list ever of all the places where you never can get it quite right, all the places you fail and fall short. Those places that can get dark, fast. Write those down.
We have to name those dark places if we ever hope to bring them into the light. We have to reflect and recognize the places that we are working from fear and not faith. So take some real time and prayer over this list.
Our fail list is about to become our surrender list. Baby steps y'all. Let's take this slow.
2. Make A To-Do List
Now make a To-Do List. Go back and incorporate your values, your priorities, and your strengths and then make a reasonable To-Do List.
Also? Do it when your tired. Right before bed tonight after a long day of getting stuff done. It's seems like a small thing, but you will treat your To-Do list with much more respect for the limitations of a fallen earth if you are feeling those effects while your writing it.
This list is the light you can give to your dark places. It's what you can offer as a mom, a wife, a worker, a daughter, and women. Any place that can get dark has something you can offer it in the way of light.
For example: I desperately want to get a book published, but to do that you have to have a big platform, lots of followers, and better-than-I-currently-have writing skills.
My To-Do List? Write. Share my Heart on Social Media. Make Connections with Influencers when possible.
3. Make a To-Don't List
Now we are going to lay down the things that make us crazy.
Take a good hard look into those places that can get so dark and see where you get sucked into the vacuum of self-fulfillment. What causes you to compare, to compete, and to condemn?
I'm really completely serious when I ask you to write out a list of what you won't do. This list is your line in the sand. I won't go there because it's not on the road I'm traveling.
Yes, I want to get a book published, but that goal has almost consumed me once or twice. So now? I Won't Check my Numbers. Anywhere. Ever. I Won't Join Groups that Aren't Life Giving. I Won't Produce if I Haven't First Filled Up.
Those places always leave me staring into the void of my own deficiency instead of fixing my eyes on the hope of heaven. It's not worth it.
So I draw a hard line. Where do you need to draw some hard lines today?