I noticed it sometime around November. That low key anxiety, the feeling of missing out, or like someone just hurt my feelings.
And then I realized it: I was checking my phone first thing in the morning. Breaking a die hard rule I had set for myself years ago, and with it breaking my mind into little scattered pieces.
So I made the standard move of anyone who feels like they are being betrayed by their phone and I took a break. And it felt so good…until it didn’t.
Until I realized that the only way for me to stave off the longing to connect was to stash the phone far away. Calls were missed, text were unsent, and if I can be really honest? A creative outlet for a slightly sleep-deprived, country dwelling mom with fives kids had disappeared. My words had been silenced and the friendships I had developed with other online creatives were crumbling.
Seems like we’ve been given two options: Stay connected to the world through our phones and while knowing that it’s reshaping our brains, our lives, and leaving us with a slightly addictive twitch. Or quit it altogether and go off the grid with superhuman self-control.
Um, I need a better option. So I went looking for one.
I started with a free course about how to use social media like business boss. I kinda figured if I could make it less personal I could mitigate it’s pull on me. But in case you’ve never tried to manage your sin, well, there’s a reason we are called to surrender it, not control it.
But somewhere in the middle of that course the sweet, perky girlboss just kept saying: The algorithm really wants engagement, it wants to see connection, it’s looking for a real relationship to the platform…and honestly, I got a little convicted. It would appear that the algorithm of what has been painted as the Evil Empire has a decided it wants me to have a holy soul. When really I just want distraction.
When the Lord says seek and you will find me? He means it. Even here, in this chaotic and complicated relationship we have with our screens, He is offering and opportunity to make something new. So I started praying about how I could care less about what the algorithm wants and more about what God wants.
He wants engagement, to see connection, He’s looking for real relationship to people.
This isn’t a rant against screen time, but redeeming the time. This is broken made beautiful, and I’m not just talking about my iPhone screen. I’m talking about leaving the time we spend on our devices feeling empowered, uplifted, and grateful for His glory and the good of the world.
Here is how I’m handling it right now:
Focus on what’s feeding my soul: Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable.
Making Connections: With the actual humans, behind the screens.
Give Good, Get Good: Sharing with purpose.
Setting Pleasant Boundaries: Setting boundaries that feel like freedom and fulfillment.
It’s actually been kinda life changing. I leave my screen time feeling empowered, uplifted, and grateful for His glory and for the good of the world. If that’s not miraculous, then I don’t know what is.
And the real deal? I’d like to share it with you. I invite you to join Whatever is Lovely: 4-day Mini-Course on Redeeming Screen Time.
We will be talking about practical strategies to surrender our screen time and watch the Lord make a broken thing beautiful. This course will free you from the complicated relationship you have with your screen and create new habits that brighten you life and spread the Light of Jesus!
So tell me…Who’s in?