I won’t lie, I giggled when she said it.
“Don’t should all over yourself.”
No one else did, which is probably why it was funny. A roomful of polite company expecting church-y words. She had none of them. Just that big and bold, “Don’t should all over yourself.”
She had a point to make and she had a point.
I mean really, Who Says?
Right here at the beginning of the year it would be ridiculous to pretend I’m anything other than a resolutions/goals/action steps addict. I long to fill my life and my heart with good things, and whether your a goal person or not, you know the longing. Maybe yours happens somewhere around spring cleaning, maybe it happens when the new school year starts.
We all want to be made new. We all want our lives to be filled with good things.
We want more, so we do more, and when it doesn’t fill us the way we hope we find ourselves frustrated. Hands full of expectations and a heart full of frustration.
And you know what? That impulse to fill our lives to the brim with good things? That hope that we can be better and do better? That’s God given and there isn’t a darn thing wrong with it. (In fact, if you’ve noticed yourself rolling your eyes at all the good intentions that can be a good time for a heart check because it usually means cynicism has pushed out longing. Shut that down.) It’s just that we have an email inbox full of ideas of how we can fill our hearts and our lives and our calendars with more good things.
“Yes, I should get my body healthy this year.”
“Yes, I should crush my career goals.”
“Yes, I should give my kids every opportunity to suceed.”
“Yes, I should be more present.”
…”make more meals”
…”be more involved in my community.”
…”read more books”
Do you see it? Not a single one of those are bad things. But we keep jumping at every opportunity that pops up, and then wonder at the end of the day why we are exhausted.
We need a better guide, a better filter than just, “Is it good?” We need a filter that let’s us know if it is “right.”
How about this questions: Who Says?
Yeah, I know, it sounds a little like a belligerent seven year trying to get out of cleaning up the legos. We shouldn’t act like that…should we?
Well, Who says?
Is it the panicked voice of your college debt saying you need to crush your career goals? It it the jerk from high school that made a comment about your weight saying you need to get healthy? Is it the perfect mom down the street whose kids are already at Jr. Olympic level whose voice is whispering that you need to say yes to this?
Or is it the Voice of Truth.
The voice of the one who calls you out of darkness into His glorious light. The voice of the one who says the first will be last and the last will be first. The voice of the one that says “I am sufficient for you.”
It’s the only voice that can change our focus from the “I should to the I AM”
It’s the only voice that speak beauty into the void and call it good.
It’s the only voice that can make old things new and make dead things living.
So, maybe it’s less belligerent and more reverent. To look up to Jesus and say, “You get the first say.”
When the opportunity pops up, and the desire creeps in, when the deadline looms…before you say, “Yes” to another thing this year, I urge to look up with the innocence of a child and ask…Who says?